Qatle nãmusi bãyad mojãzãte adidtari dãtebãadA'zãye hey'ate dowlat, Mona Sahlin va Margareta Winberg, dar maqãleean neveteand "mã nabãyad hicvaqt ejãze bedahim kesi az qatle nãmusi sohbat konad. Hic madraki vojud nadãrad ke xounat aleyhe zanãne javãn be farhang bastegi datebãad. In xounate mardãn aleyhe zanãn ast o bas. Hame ciz rã bãyad bã esme dorosta nãmid".Loqatnãmehãye Suedi farhang rã nahveye zendegie mardom, nahveye tafakkor va amale mardom dar yek joqrãfia va dar yek borheye mo'ayyan az zamãn ta'rif mikonand, agar in farhang nist pas cist? Qatle nãmusi ebãrat ast az kotane zanãni ke dar mazãnne in ettehãm hastand ke amali rã anjãm dadeand yã dar sadade anjãme amali budeand ke araf o nãmuse xãnevãde rã be xatar miandãzad. Dar in miãn yek qorbãni hast, alalqãede yek zan. Gonãhe u in ast ke benã be e'teqãde digarãn araf o nãmuse xãnevãde rã lakkedãr karde. Masalan zani ke mowrede tajãvoz be onf qarãr gerefte, xãrej az ezdevãj bã mardi rãbete date, yã mixãhad bã mardi qeyr az ãnke xãnevãdea taklif karde ast ezdevãj konad. Zani ke raftãra bã hanjãrhãi ke jãmee towsie mikonad xãnãi nadãrad. Haminhã kãfist tã pecpechã, su'e zannhã va ãyee parãkanihã dowr bardãrand. Ãnvaqt xãnevãde hokme marge u rã sãder mikonad. Dar jam'e kesãni ke dar xãnevãde in tasmimãt rã migirand, qeyr az mardãn, zanãn ham hozur dãrand. Barãye be ejrã darãvardane hokme e'dãm ma'mulan javãntarin pesare xãnevãde rã ma'mur mikonand. Pesari ke hanuz be senne mojãzãt nareside ast. Gãhi pesarãne yãzdah davãzdah sãle. Qorbãni gãhi mãdar, gãhi xãhar, doxtare dãi yã be ekli fãmile pesarak ast. U majbur be ejrãye hokme e'dãm ast hattã agar xoda naxãhad, cerã ke arafe xãnevãde dar orofe nãbudist. Agar in hokm be ejrã dar nayãyad digar jãye in xãnevãde dar ãn jãmee nist. Digar hickodãmeãn nemitavãnand bi ãnke sareãn rã az nang pãin biandãzand az xãne xãrej avand. Vaqti hokme e'dãm ejrã avad ãnvaqt qãtel qahremãn ast va "arafe xãnevãde" eãde ode. Zamãn migozarad, zendegi edãme miyãbad va hickas esmi az qorbãni nemibarad, gu'i hargez cenãn zani be donyã nayãmade bude ast... Man in rasm rã xub mienãsam, az kevare xodam Torkiye. Ba vojude in ke Torkiye moderntarin kevare eslãmi ast in rasm dar baxhãye arqia vojud dãrad dar jãhãi ke hanuz farhange feodãli nofuzi qavi dãrad. Amma dar aqlabe kevarhãi ke dar ãnhã qatle nãmusi hanuz ravãj dãrad moqãvemate besyãr porqodrati ham aleyhe ãn hast. Masalan ruznãmehãye Torkiye az sare qatlhãye nãmusi ãsãn nemigozarand va mojremãn rã efã' mikonand. Dar jarayãne konferãnse bozorge Sãzmãne Melal (yã be estelãh Pekan 5) fa'ãline jonbee zanãne Torkiye besyãr porkãr budand. Dar in konferãns kevarhãye ozve Sãzmãne Melal be tavãfoq residand ke eqdãmãteãn rã aleyhe "qatlhãye nãmusi" tasri' va tadid konand va ruznãmehãye Torkiye ettexãze in tasmim rã bã ur o harãrat jan gereftand. Kesãni ke tahte anãvini con "ensãn-negari va tarze barxorde bimãrguneye moti marde mariz-ahval" qatlhãye nãmusi rã masãeli axsi va xosusi jelve midahand mardom rã be birãhe mikeãnand. Tafavote azimi beyne qatle ma'muli va qatle nãmusi vojud dãrad ke az majrãye sonnat taqzie miavad va be montahã daraje naqemand o sãzmãnyãfte ast. Mã ham xub midãnim ke xounat aleyhe zanãn dar hame jãye donyã hast, amma omã ham bãyad bedãnid ke qatle nãmusi dar hame jãye donyã nist. Har farhang o sonnati elzãman xub nist. Farhang zende ast va mitavanad va bãyad bã morure zamãn be cize behtari tabdil avad. Cizi ke qatle nãmusi xãnde miavad be hic vajh nabãyad dar hengãme sodure hokme mojãzãt, ellate moxaffefe be hesãb biãyad. Dorost baraks, bãyad hameye dastandarkãrãn rã be mojãzãti adidtar mahkum kard. Ãncenãn adid ke hic kas jor'at nakonad be serãfate tekrãre ãn bioftad. Hameye orakãye jorm, ya'ni hameye kesãni ham ke dar tarrãhie qatl dast dãteand bãyad mahkum va mojãzãt avand. Mã bãyad hadde aksare hemãyatemãn rã be zanãni bedahim ke dar ma'raze conin xatarãti qarãr dãrand. Masãele inãn bãyad be montehã daraje jeddi talaqqi avad. Nokteye ãxer ammã mohemm in ke man midãnam ke aqlabe mohãjerãn va be xosus sãzmãnhãye ãnhã dar Sued be in masãel voqufe kãmel dãrand va aleyhe baxhai az farhange xodeãn ke dar ãn conin jenãyãti towjih miavad mobãreze mikonand. Dilek Yaras
Ruznãmenegãr Ruznãmeye Metro Stokholm Seanbe 19/12/2000 |